Please don’t calm the f*ck down

I’m all fired up. Someone recently showed me a book called Calm the F*CK Down: how to control what you can and accept what you can’t so you can stop freaking out and get on with your life. A cold shiver ran down my spine, when I saw this yuck-o title: I’m all for cursing, but…

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Carrots and sticks

Do you ever feel like you’re getting in your own way? Well, it’s because you are. Here’s why…. Imagine being a hominid a million years ago. You live in a cave with a small tribe of people. Your primary aims in life are to eat, cooperate with your tribe, procreate, and ensure the survival of…

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The secret to a long, happy life

“If you ask what is the single most important key to longevity, I would have to say it is avoiding worry, stress and tension. And if you didn’t ask me, I’d still have to say it.” – George F. Burns Do you worry a lot? Does worry keep you stuck in the same old patterns of…

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The Largest Public Health Study You’ve Never Heard Of

The “Adverse Childhood Experiences” (ACE) study is massive. It’s results are conclusive and have been reproduced countless times worldwide. The implications of the data are staggering. Yet, hardly anyone in the American medical mainstream talks about it. Let’s talk about it today. YOUR BIOGRAPHY BECOMES YOUR BIOLOGY In the 1990’s, Dr. Vincent Felitti led a CDC…

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The Gift of Anger

I promise that you will NOT think about anger the same way after you watch this interview. Anger is a big, powerful emotion. We let it spill over. We fear it. Bypass it. Pretend it isn’t there. We keep calm and carry on. In truth, anger is wisdom. Anger serves a beautiful purpose – to…

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The difference between harmful and uncomfortable

Sometimes, discomfort and harm go together. For example, putting your hand on a hot stove is both painful and dangerous. But other times, discomfort does not signal of danger. For example, writing a book, asking someone out on a date and running a marathon are all activities that may cause discomfort. But that doesn’t necessarily…

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Will I ever be completely clear of anxiety?

Recently, a friend was telling me about a blissful experience she had with an energy healer. She said, “I felt so good. I felt like I had been resting for an eternity. I felt airy. I felt brand new.” And then she asked me this: Will I ever be completely clear of anxiety? Maybe you…

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Six tricks for falling asleep when you’re anxious or excited

Have you ever had the experience of being so excited that you couldn’t sleep at night? I have. Do any of these scenarios sound familiar:          you have a big meeting or presentation the next day          you’re excited about a creative project          you’re traveling…

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