Carrots and sticks

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By Uma Sanghvi

Uma Sanghvi is an anxiety-relief coach. She uses trauma-informed techniques to help people overcome anxiety, stress and worry. 

Do you ever feel like you’re getting in your own way? Well, it’s because you are.

Here’s why….

Imagine being a hominid a million years ago. You live in a cave with a small tribe of people. Your primary aims in life are to eat, cooperate with your tribe, procreate, and ensure the survival of your children and therefore the propagation of your genes.

These are the carrots.

You also need to make sure that you don’t get killed by predators or other tribes and comply with the leadership in your tribe (you need your tribe for survival).

These are the sticks.

Here is the key difference between the carrots and the sticks: if you miss out on a carrot today, you have another opportunity at a carrot tomorrow. But if you fail to avoid a stick today – BAM!

No more carrots forever.

No more propagation of your genes.

According to psychologist Rick Hanson, here’s what happened: our early ancestors evolved brain structures that allowed them to make three key mistakes:

1. Overestimate threats
2. Underestimate opportunities
3. Underestimate resources

(sound like anyone you know…)

Hanson calls this a NEGATIVITY BIAS.

This is a brilliant strategy for survival in the wild, don’t you think? And the proof is in the pudding. After all, it worked! They survived. And here you are as living proof of their success.

Negativity bias works.

…right?

Maybe then. But that was then. And this is now. Modern life is nothing like our cave-dwelling ancestors of a million years ago.

I bet that you want more from your life than to SURVIVE.

You want to THRIVE.

You want joy. You want peace of mind. You want to heal. You want to travel. You want to be an amazing parent. You want a fulfilling relationship. You want to take your business to the next level. You want to launch your business. You want to feel the passion in your soul and share it with the world.

You want to thrive.

So, what’s getting in your way of you thriving?

Are you scared? Do you feel stuck? Are you unsure about how to move forward? Are you anxious? Do you feel unsafe in the world? Do you feel uncomfortable in your own body?

This sounds all too familiar to me. I resonate with the fear, the stuck-ness, the lack of feeling safe, the discomfort in my body, the anxiety. And I can vouch for the fact that it’s soooo uncomfortable to live like this. That’s how I found myself in the world of mind-body healing. I let my own anxiety guide me out of survival mode and into an entirely new life. I’m grateful for this brain of mine, even if it does sport a negativity bias. A couple of years ago, I started coaching people to heal their anxiety. This is what I learned….

Can you thrive despite the negativity bias that’s wired into your human brain?

Happily, the answer is YES.

There are tools for pulling out of survival brain and into a state of thriving.

The secret to flipping the switch is in these 4 steps:

1. Awareness of your thoughts
2. Connection with your body
3. Allowing your emotions
4. Tapping into inner wisdom

When you can skillfully practice these four power tools in your life, everything will change.

You’ll be more trusting of other people. Your health will improve. You’ll be willing to take positive risks and follow your dreams. Your mind will be more calm and your body more relaxed. You’ll be tuned into your own intuition.

And here’s what I can tell you from personal experience: life gets more magical.

This year has been the most magical year of my entire life.

And it is because I started doing the four things above regularly.

It’s been a year of healing in all ways: mental, emotional physical, spiritual. But I’m more excited about the MAGIC than anything else.

If you’re interested in finding out more, click here

In case you’re wondering: switching out of survival mode isn’t painful. It doesn’t take a lot of time.

But it does mean learning how to do these four things and do them well:

1. Awareness of your thoughts
2. Connection with your body
3. Allowing your emotions
4. Tapping into inner wisdom

If you’re ready for less stress, worry and negative thinking, then it’s time to do something about it.

Click here to schedule a free discovery call with me. I’ll help you get clarity on what thriving means to you. And your next steps to get there.

It’s time for you to relax, get unstuck and THRIVE.

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